Harvard Business Review
Ninety-five percent of people think they're self-aware, but only 10 to 15 percent really are. That means 80 percent of us are lying to ourselves about how great we are. In reality, we're repeating behaviors that others find ... well, annoying. The truth hurts most when we don't know it. Ask for it.
This 20-minute podcast explains how to be a loving critic, too. A transcript is available.